After you've been in a relationship for a while, you're likely to encounter a time when the
passion dies down. Work, kids, and fatigue sets in and you look up one day and the person you fell in love with is more of a roommate than a lover.
Everyone falls into certain patterns that are comfortable. But, by breaking out of your
comfort zone every so often, you'll experience a sense of newness in your relationship.
It's important to seek out that certain spark you felt when you first got together
with your partner. Those feelings are still there, you just might need to be creative in
finding ways to bring them out again.
Here are some ways that you can reignite the passion in your relationship:
1. Go out of your way. Remember at the beginning of your relationship how you
would go out of your way to make your partner extra happy? Make these efforts again!
It'll surprise your partner and be a reminder about how much you love them.
It doesn't have to be an everyday thing, but everyone deserves a little "above and
2. Show your gratitude. You often think to yourself how grateful you are that your
partner did something for you, and it's important to let your partner know of your
gratitude, too. In fact, this is the biggest complaint that stay-at-home moms have about their husbands.
Many times a simple, "Thank you for..." statement will let your partner know how much you appreciate the effort.
3. Greet your partner first. When you have kids, they become the most important beings in your life. I know how good it feels to see my little guy after a long day. But, be sure to go straight to your mate and greet them with a hug and kiss. Make them a priority.
4. Spend time alone together. Everyone is busy, but you need to make the extra effort
to have alone time together. It's still important to make dates with each other
and do things you've never done before. Call in that favor to your friend who offered to babysit or let you stay in their vacation home for a weekend.
5. Show affection. This can often be a very difficult thing to do when you lose the rhythm of touch. Getting back into the groove of holding hands, subtle back rubs, and whispering in ears takes effort. The first time you do it after a long drought, your partner may be surprised. Who doesn't want to be shown love with gentle touches and
hugs? Snuggle together on the couch and just enjoy the closeness.
6. Seek adventure. Everyone has his or her own definition of adventure. For the really risk-averse folks, taking a different route to work is adventurous! Do something together that shakes up your routine and exhilarates you.
7. Share your goals. Keep an open conversation with your partner about your future
plans. Things may not always go according to plan, but it's good to talk about your
dreams and goals. I've had several moments where I emotionally shared my struggles with my wife. I'm sure she appreciated my honesty and it kept her in the loop of where my head was.
8. Take an intimacy class together. It's important to brush up on your skills. On March 3, 2018, I am hosting an called "Elevated Intimacy: Ignite Sexual Chemistry and Connection in Your Relationship." If your relationship has become kinda mundane, I have a solution for you. During this event I'll be pulling back the curtain on everything I've learned about how to create excitement, in and out of the bedroom!
I'll be discussing ideas and doing demonstrations that meet at the intersection of sex and spirituality like:
How to get over sexual insecurities
How to make sex a highly-anticipated event
How to increase your energy so you can last longer
How to move with sensuality to enhance connection
How to tell your partner exactly what you want
How to forgive sexual experiences you didn't enjoy
I want you to leave this event with a renewed sense of confidence and, at minimum, a notebook full of new ideas you can try that night ;-)
Get your tickets here